The Growth Coach for Divorced Christian Women
A clean house and happy kids. Every approaching birthday, Mother’s Day, and Christmas when we would ask my mom what she wanted, she would say, “A clean house and happy kids.” There were 6 of us, so those two things seemed continually mutually exclusive. We could clean the house, or we could be cheerful andContinue reading “Clean parenting”
Just like me. I’ve been thinking about what grace means for me. It’s something more than the “courteous goodwill” that comes up when I search for the definition online. It’s more like the psychological equivalent of the “simple elegance or refinement of movement” that defines physical grace. It’s a way of relating to ourselves andContinue reading “Grace”
What does it meant to be in emotional adulthood? I bet everyone has said at one time or another, “She made me so mad!” or “He is frustrating me!” If you’ve been around here a while, though, you know that other people don’t control our emotions. We create our own emotions with our thoughts. AndContinue reading “Being a grownup”
What do you REALLY deserve? I love chocolate. There was a period of years in my marriage where I felt like I had so little enjoyment that there was no way I was going to deprive myself of the pleasure of chocolate. From time to time I would notice that I was eating more andContinue reading “I deserve this”
It isn’t better there than here. Believing that one sentence is the secret to achieving your goals. You think you need to lose weight, find a partner, get a promotion, clean your house, and on and on. THEN you’ll feel good about yourself. THEN you’ll be worthy of love and belonging. THEN you’ll feel successful.Continue reading “How to get results”
Sometimes I’m not sure what I’m doing or why I’m doing it. I have a lot of projects going and it can feel overwhelming. It can seem like the solution is to dive right in and get a bunch of things done. Nothing wrong with getting things done. But I’ve noticed that sometimes I amContinue reading “Action!”
Our emotions are here to help us pay attention. Let’s not turn them off. At work recently I solved one problem and thereby created another problem for someone else. It seemed unavoidable when I did it, and may yet have been, but after I did it I wasn’t so sure. I felt terrible. I wasContinue reading “Don’t miss the signal”
The problem you’re having might not be what you think. Instead, it might just be what you’re thinking. Human beings are meaning-making machines. We have thousands of thoughts every day in rapid succession. We have thoughts all day long about the circumstances we encounter, about our past, and about our future. Most of the timeContinue reading “It’s what you think”
Do you want to go to Hawaii? I have a friend who goes to stay in a condo in Hawaii for a week every winter. We live in the midwestern United States, so it’s a marvelous escape from winters that can be brutally cold. Sometimes she feels guilty about going to Hawaii. She’s convinced sheContinue reading “Getting what you deserve”
Is it a story or a fact? A few years ago I worked with a personal trainer, an avid cyclist who told me her favorite temperature is 73 degrees. It felt oddly specific, and has stuck in my mind ever since. I think of her every time I notice that it’s 73 degrees outside. 73Continue reading “73 degrees”
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